October 11, 2011

Chatting with Laurie David {Tales from the Trenches}

The Family Dinner

This is the latest installment of my Tales from the Trenches Series. An ongoing series where friends and readers share their stories and recipes about the great food they fit into family life. We all have tips and tricks to share with each other: when we cook, what we cook and how we cook the delicious food we love to eat.

GIVEAWAY: {If you are interested in a winning a copy of Laurie’s book please see entry rules below the interview}

Today I am chatting with Laurie David, the author of The Family Dinner Cookbook: Great Ways to Connect With Your Kids, One Meal at a Time and well-known environmental advocate. I had the great fortune of meeting Laurie at the BlogHer Food Conference in Atlanta last May where we made an instant connection. Both of us strongly believe in the power of families eating together as a way of connecting with our children and strengthening family bonds. As you know, I often cook during naptime or when my daughter is at school so that I can enjoy cooking and our dinner is ready with minimal fuss in the evening. This is my way of getting a joyful dinner on the table for us to converse over. Sure, there are nights when my husband travels or I am out for work, but, like Laurie, I strive to make our meals meaningful and memorable as often as possible.

I encourage you to pick up a copy of Laurie’s wonderful book and enjoy it. Better yet, pick up two copies, one for you and one for a friend. The volume contains gorgeous recipes and anecdotes relating to all kinds of family gatherings and ways to connect with your family over meals. It stresses the importance of low-stress food and easygoing fun. A notion I think all parents, especially me, can stand solidly behind.

1. It can be hard to have lengthy sit down dinners with young children. Do you have any tips for parents looking for ways to get their toddlers to stay engaged at the table for more than just the time they are eating?

Kids stay at the table when they’re having fun.  And one way to accomplish that is by playing verbal games.  My book is full of suggestions for games we played in my house to take the conversation away from the ordinary and get everyone laughing.  Kids love to answer questions, they love to respond and they even love to wait their turn to participate.  Tonight, try playing “What I Like about Me”.  Go around the table and have everyone say one thing that they like about themselves.  And then for the second and third rounds, have everyone go around and say what they like about the person on either side of them.

2. Since time can be the enemy of parents with young kids, what kind of meal prep tips do you recommend for people trying to sit down for at least 10 minutes with their families for dinner?

First of all, take the pressure off yourself about what constitutes “dinner”.  It can be soup and a salad or healthy sandwich and cut up fruit.  On days when you’re super busy, remember that the really important thing is sitting down together and talking. Also, I’m a fan of time savers, such as doubling up recipes and freezing one, sharing meals with friends and simplifying, simplifying, simplifying!

3. Sometimes my husband gets home late so I eat dinner with my daughter and then he eats later. Our family sit-down meals tend to be weekend breakfasts or lunches. A lot of my friends are in similar situations, how do we make this work for us?

Sounds like it’s already working!  You might want to make it a family goal to add one more family meal to your week, whether it be a breakfast, lunch or dinner.  Or how about a before bedtime cup of herb tea that you all share together.

4. The fun part for new families is the prospect of building new family meal traditions, especially around holidays and birthdays. How do you recommend building new family meal traditions, while balancing the established ones, with your family?

I think the key to family rituals are that they’re not once a year, but that they’re weekly.  You can start next week with the addition of Meatless Monday.  I love naming certain nights of the week after a particular dining experience and that helps make dinner feel like a party.  Taco Tuesdays, Wacky Wednesdays (e.g. breakfast for dinner), Shabbat Friday, Souper Sundays are all great ritual ideas that you can incorporate into your week.

5. How do you recommend parents with limited amounts of time begin taking steps toward a more environmentally kitchen? People often ask me for the small, easy things that they can build on to make a difference. It is about removing the intimidation factor and taking it one day at a time to make it manageable. There is so little free time for big projects with young kids at home!

Here’s the great news.  Your kitchen is the greatest room in the house to teach those green values.  And they don’t take any more time and effort and they can save you money.  A perfect example of this is banning plastic water bottles from your kitchen. Always serving water as your family’s main drink in glasses from your tap is a great green habit, better for your health and much better for the environment.  Other simple green things you can do is reduce your overall plastic use in the kitchen using glass ball jars in the kitchen instead of saran wrap.  Make sure you’re buying environmentally sound cleaning supplies and recycled paper products.  After you’ve done those simple things, think about planting a pot of herbs on your windowsill, balcony or backyard.  Your kids will love picking them for your recipes and you will love the money and plastic packaging you save by not having to buy them at the store.

6. How can you get little kids involved in this process? [Note: referencing question #5]

Your kids can be in charge of trying to reduce the amount of waste your kitchen tosses out every day.  And I love involving kids in making lunches from leftovers after dinner and of course aiming for waste free lunch too!   Your kids can help you shop, looking at labels and get them involved in the cooking process as early as possible.  The more they cook with you, the more they’ll eat and the more aware they’ll be of the environmental issues too.

7. Do you ever get in cooking ruts? What do you do to get out of them?

Of course I do! I buy a new cookbook or revisit the ones on my shelf for inspiration!

8. Entertaining with young kids is a whole different ball game. What are your strategies for family entertaining when it is likely the toddler set is more interested in playing than eating?

I bring games to the table.  A simple example is “telephone” where someone whispers something into the ear of the person sitting next to them and then they have to share with the person next to them and so on. . . . It’s always fun, even for the littlest kids at the table.

We also have fun little rituals like “broccoli moments” where someone announces “broccoli moment” at some random point during the meal and we all (adults included!) pick up a piece of broccoli (or whatever veggie is pick-up-able on the plate!) and pop it into our mouths.

The basic idea is that dinner is a time to laugh, have fun and connect with each other.  Dinner isn’t just about refueling, it’s also about connecting and creating memories.

9. My husband and daughter have a Saturday morning breakfast tradition at our local diner. I encourage it because it is their special time together. Do you advocate these kinds of meal traditions, too?

Absolutely! Any excuse to create a ritual is a good thing.

10.  I love that you agree that take-out is a great option on occasions. Do you ever use take-out as a chance to explore new cuisines and flavors?

Yes and I think that’s a great suggestion!  I also think that family field trips to ethnic markets and restaurants are another great way to learn about other parts of the world.  And. . .just because it’s take out, doesn’t mean you need to serve it that way– put it in bowls, light a candle, take out the non-disposable chopsticks and the cloth napkins.

11. For all of us parents trying to maintain sanity and build long-lasting family traditions with our families we thank you for writing this book. Do you have any words of advice for those of us with growing families? Words of encouragement for those of us with tables still surrounded by high chairs?

The bottom line for all of this is that the research proves that if you want to raise healthy, happy, well adjusted children, you have to eat with them more often.  That’s the good news, because this ritual is going to make your life more enjoyable too.  I predict that your best family memories won’t be fancy vacations but all the great meals that you’ve shared around the table.

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32 Responses to “Chatting with Laurie David {Tales from the Trenches}”

  1. Kristin says:

    We enjoy going around and saying our favorite part of the day while we eat!

  2. Tina Engberg says:

    Making a big pot of spaghetti sauce would probably be the big ritual. My five year old is on a long term food strike, and my eight year old loves to tell me how my food tastes like “nuclear waste,” so family dinner time at our house isn’t always a whole lot of fun and games. 

  3. Jenny Meyerson says:

    We have 4 kids- 13,9,8, and 2 so we are in game mode right now. We love the Family Table Topics questions and the kids are begging to play Uno almost every night. Last night we had a one of our favorites- meatloaf, mashed potatoes, and green beans. 

  4. Janet says:

    2 or 3 times a month we will have “Dad’s Famous Tacos” with homemade Spanish rice and beans.  My husband makes them homemade the same way his mom made them when he was growing up, and I think my kids would rather eat these than any other food on Earth.

  5. Miranda says:

    I like you on FB.

  6. Miranda says:

    I’m a newsletter subscriber

  7. Miranda says:

    Every Sunday, we eat dinner in the dining room with placemats and nice flowers. We all enjoy starting a new week that way.

  8. Dawn says:

    My kids and I can applesauce with my mother. We make a big production out of it (the recipe is no secret – it’s apples and cinnamon, canned), but we do it several times every fall and everyone gets a job. The kids love smashing the cooked apples and scraping the peels out of the strainer and into the trash. They have to take turns with the cinnamon and we’ve definitely had some extra cinnamon-y batches, but it’s worth it, because they eat applesauce at least two nights a week all year round!

    We also make jam, which we give as gifts to teachers, babysitters, etc. at the holidays.

  9. Alice says:

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  11. Alice says:

    My favorite family meal ritual is just having a chance to talk about anything with my family members, laughing, crying, and eating good food! It’s just one of the best parts of the day where we can all gather, uninterrupted each day. 

  12. Cari says:

    After reading the Family Dinner (I checked it out from the library), we started having discussion starters at the table for everyone to answer. Our favorite so far was when all of us described our ultimate pizza. I loved the book and would love to have it in our library. I tried several recipes and we all loved them!

  13. Jen B. says:

    Favorite family meal ritual: my 4-year-old says a Jewish blessing of the bread (we are not Jewish but she attended a JCC for pre-school)

  14. Maureen says:

    We are still working on rituals, I think… but we do eat dinner every night together so that’s a start.  Right now the rituals revolve around the food I make but I’d love to win this book to help me expand that!  Thanks, Maureen (jnomaxx at hotmail dot com)

  15. This book sounds wonderful.  My family and I have dinner together every night, it’s where we share how our days went, prepare meals together, and the person who cooks never does the dishes!

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  17. I also subscribe to your newsletters.

  18. Maureen says:

    One of the favorite items that I make for my family that is gone in like five minutes is a spinach leek quiche. It has veggies in it which some members are not too thrilled with but they don’t mind it so much in the quiche. The is spinach and the Knorr leek soup mix and Canadian bacon and a bit of cheddar cheese and mozzarella cheese and milk and of course some eggs.

  19. Maureen says:

    I receive the news letters

  20. Liz the Chef says:

    My husband and I always sit down to dinner together when we are both home. We always light candles – tapers in cool weather, votives when the fans are going and the windows open. It makes even a soup and bread supper feel elegant and a nice way to end our busy day.

  21. I am a newsletter subscriber AND a Facebook “liker.”  And I LOVE the idea for this book. 
    We are lucky- my husband and I both work from home, so family dinner is a very doable goal for our family. We like to go around the table and have each family member say one lucky thing that happened to them that day. Yeah, it’s a kind of overly obvious plea to make everyone find something positive to say. But it works!

  22. Dkkporter says:

    My favorite family ritual is when we gather at the dinner table and say our thanks for our blessings. It is the one time of day where we are all together, and the grace and conversation are highlights of every day.

  23. Nancy says:

    We always say our favorite and least favorite part of the day.

  24. Eehrlich says:

    We try to eat dinner together every night and we always get everyone to talk a bit about what they did that day that was special, different, exciting or maybe not so great. By sharing we all get a chance to slow down and focus on just one person at a time (hard in a family of 6!).

  25. Becki S says:

    I too think family meal time is a must for all families.  Sometimes our family meal is breakfast as my husband works most nights of the week but we make it work and even when he isn’t home the girls and I still sit down together to eat and chat about the day.
    One thing that we have done this week is ask “Share something funny that happened today”  Everyone enjoys to laugh and needs to laugh so this helps us all think about our day in a different way.

  26. Anonymous says:

     Baking is a fun family activity we do together!  Christmas cookie decorating
    is always done during the holidays…
    Many thanks, Cindi

  27. Anonymous says:

    I “Like” The Naptime Chef on Facebook!
    Again, many thanks to you…Cindi

  28. Anonymous says:

    Also, I am an email newsletter subscriber of yours!
    Merci, Cindi